A big mistake some parents make is that I do not know and fail to listen to their child. Either ignore him or cut off his advantage by telling him he doesn't have time to talk or tell him that he is talking silly or, on the contrary, he does not know what he is talking about.
No matter how busy you are, it is important to be available and listen carefully to the child, whatever he has to say!
You have to understand that when a child wants to talk or send you something, his wish is at that moment and not later, when you want to. The child is not like an adult. He can't wait 5 minutes to talk to him because he doesn't have enough patience! And if you don't listen to him, he may not want to talk to you next time! Keep in mind that there may be something really important about his health or safety!
Make an agreement with your little one!
There will always be situations where you will be unable to talk to your little one exactly when you want. Therefore, it is important to make a small fair with him or explain to him why he has to wait a little. If you are in the middle of a conversation and the little one pulls you off the handle to tell you something, then talk to him and tell him "please wait a few seconds, because now I can't listen to you properly and I can't give you everything the necessary attention, so I cannot help you ".
After you finish the conversation, pay your full attention and tell him that you are now only eyes and ears for him. Explain to him how important it is to have enough time to listen to him, because only then can you help him with everything he needs. Also, teach him not to always cry after you through the house "mommy, mommy", whenever he wants to tell you something.
Tell him that when you are working or talking to someone, and he wants to tell you something, it must be nice for you to touch your hand and tell him that he wants to talk to you. And only then will you know that you must quickly finish what you have to do to listen to it. But it is not nice to interrupt the conversations of others!
Enter in your daily program moments of conversation!
It is important to talk to your little one whether he is 1 month, 1 year or 10 years old. Maybe you wonder what? About absolutely everything: toys, friends, wishes, kindergarten, school, passions etc. The small moments of conversation with him will bring you closer and help strengthen the parent-child relationship.
In addition, in this way you will create opportunities for communication and moments to tell you what he has on his soul or what he wants, without having to intervene in your discussions at other times or interrupt you from work.
Just because some topics are not important to you, does not mean you have to ignore them!
It is possible that the little one will come to you with childish subjects and no harm. In those moments it is possible to get angry because he interrupted you from work just for that. But you have to keep in mind that at a young age children worry about everything and have multiple curiosities, some more interesting, others less.
He never tells her what she says is silly or stupid, nor does she disregard what she has to say. If you tell him that what he has to say is uninteresting or unimportant, next time he will not tell you anything because he does not have the ability to sift information and know which things are more important to say and which are not.
Teach the child to listen to you!
As important as listening to him, just as important is learning and listening to him. Talk to him as much as possible and tell him fragments of your life, but keep everything in a positive light. Don't tell them about your financial worries or your problems. You do not have to burden him with such problems.
You are an example to him!
Therefore, you must first prove that you are a good listener because he, in turn, becomes so. It is important to pay full attention, listen to him patiently and try to help him whenever he needs.
Tags Parent-child relationship Child communication