Negativism in children

Negativism in children

Negativism manifests itself through opposing behavior of the child, that is, through the repeated tendency to say "NO" or to break rules. The negative child is disobedient, has frequent hysteria and challenges parents. It seems that negativism is considered a normal stage in their development. Find out when it becomes a problem!

What is the cause of the negativity in children?

Therefore, negativism is often present among young children, especially at 2 years old, but also in adolescents and is experienced in many forms. Some are normal and are part of the development, and if they are helped, they overcome quickly. Others may pose social or emotional problems to the child and may prevent him / her from adapting to groups and communities. There are several forms of negativism in the little ones.

A form appears in early childhood and is known as active negativism. Within it the little ones choose not to follow the rules and even to violate them, doing the opposite. For example, if you tell the little boy not to put his shoe on the table, he will do the exact opposite as soon as you look elsewhere or you are no longer paying attention to him. Psychologists explain the emergence of negativism in young children through the imbalance that forms between the child's wishes and the frequent refusals he receives from parents.

How does the negativity manifest in children?

There are, on the one hand, some clear characteristics in which a child is framed, who expresses negative emotions, and on the other hand a series of specific manifestations or symptoms.

The characteristics of a negative child are:

  • frequent hysteria or fits of anger;
  • frequent quarrels with others;
  • temper tantrum;
  • disobedience and violation of rules;
  • blaming others for his actions;
  • physical aggression on others;
  • tendency to be vindictive.

Symptoms include:

  • sadness;
  • apathy;
  • fear;
  • social isolation;
  • anger;
  • depression tendency etc.

How do you help the child overcome negative emotions?

Don't punish him for his behavior! Remember that at the young age, these emotions are normal and are part of the child's development. Punishing him for something that comes naturally to his behavior can frustrate and frustrate him. It is more important to help him learn more about emotions and about the manifestation of emotions and their recognition.

Teach him to recognize emotions!

There are all kinds of toys and methods by which you can help the child learn how emotions are manifested. It is important to teach him how "sadness" or "joy" looks from the point of view of behavior, gestures and gestures.

Teach him to express his emotions verbally!

Then teach the little one to verbally express his own feelings!

It is important to always talk to them about the different emotions that people manifest and how they characterize themselves in behavior. Tell them about sadness, joy, anger and their forms of manifestation whenever you have the opportunity, and if you have examples or situations that can justify your explanations all the better.

Do not try to talk to them only about positive emotions in trying to protect them from the negative ones. Children need to know all the kinds of emotions that people can face in order to identify them. This way you will be able to figure out later how to properly control and approach them.

Ask him questions all the time about the manifestation of emotions!

A child who exhibits negative emotions can be described, for example, in the following way: scream, break, throw, roll on the floor, run away, rebel, shake hands and feet, withdraw and isolate, not talk, is all the time sad and so on.

It is important to help him discover and identify these feelings by helping him with questions. Instead of punishing him, you better try to help him deal with his own emotions and overcome them.

You can ask him all kinds of questions: what do you feel at the moment? what made you scream or throw? who or what annoyed you? Do you think such behavior helps you solve something? what can i do to feel better?

Teach him to react calmly and cautiously the next time he feels that way and talk to him about what he feels and wants before reacting behaviorally. Children should be helped to deal with negative emotions, not be punished for them!

Tags Aggressive Children Child Challenging Parents Child Rule Child Communication Child Crisis Child Sadness Child Depression Child Behavior Problems