Instead of talking to them about their illnesses and their implications, parents often choose to hide from their children such information, whether they themselves are sick or another family member suffering. What I do not know is that as young as they are, children feel that something is not right, and if they are not told about illness and illness, they will feel confused, stressed and even neglected. Even if you tell the child the truth about his or her illness or someone close to them can be quite difficult and complicated, the specialists argue that they face the truth better than hiding it.
Give yourself enough time and get informed!
You have to take everything step by step, and get very informed before you start the discussion with your little one. Remember that you cannot speak to them in complicated medical terms and that you may not know what the disease means or be sick. You must exemplify these situations with a few situations when he was ill.
Consider the child's level of understanding!
Depending on the age of the child you should know that you cannot approach the subject in any way, but rather on the "language" and its meaning. Very young children do not understand as soon as it happens. It is possible to be put in the situation to often repeat the same information.
Make sure he has no guilt for that
Young children tend to blame themselves for bad or bad things that happen around them. It is possible to be considered guilty that mommy is ill because once she was not happy or did not listen to her when she told him to make orders in the room. You must explain to him and assure him that he is not at fault for his mother being ill.
Tell him the truth, as much as his level of understanding allows!
It is important to tell the truth, no matter how painful it may be. Even if there is a risk that the person will die, you can tell him that this possibility exists. Don't tell him it will definitely happen, be careful, but put him on his guard.
Assure the child that whatever happens, he will still be loved and appreciated!
It is important for the child to know about what is happening and what the evolution of the sick person is. In this way, you will know what to expect and will be prepared and not misled when the time comes. For example, if the patient has to operate within a few days, announce it in advance and prepare it by explaining how it is with the operation, with the hospitalization and what is going on there. It is better that he not be taken by surprise and frightened, but be prepared for it.
Keep up to date with the evolution of the disease in the rhythm of events
It is not appropriate to tell the child that the patient is likely to die or undergo surgery if a diagnosis has just been made. Just because these diseases have such an evolution does not mean that the same person will follow the same path. It is important to keep the child up to date with everything that happens in real time and to keep a dose of caution in forecasting certain events, but telling the truth at the same time.
It follows the behavior and the psychological evolution of the child
Do not believe that if you tell the truth to your little one and keep him informed, everything will be fine. He will still be affected by the information and suffering that exists around him and will overwhelm his emotions. This is why it is important to follow the smallest changes in his behavior and try to control and temper the reactions. Some children when they are sad, scared and overwhelmed by such feelings may have anger, become aggressive, or fall into depression.
Always ask him what he feels about what you say and if he wants to talk about his fears and worries. If you notice that your little one has become isolated, doesn't want to spend time with his friends and seems sad and apathetic all the time, go with him to a psychotherapist. Even if these side effects occur, it is always important to always tell the truth of the child.
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