Parents' body language influences children in more ways than you might imagine. All informed parents are attentive to nonverbal language and try to adapt it to all the situations and interactions they have with their little one to make it a successful parenting technique in raising and educating.
Body or non-verbal language is an integral part of your parenting style. It has an impressive power over the child in some of the most important aspects of growth and development:
Positive body language of parents and children
A single grin or behavior that transmits a negative nonverbal message to the child will not have an immediate effect on the child, but their accumulation over time leads to long-term effects. For example, if you usually use open, positive, friendly, approachable, and respectful body language when you talk to your little one you help increase self-esteem and give him more self-confidence, and he is very unlikely to engage in inappropriate behaviors to get your attention. He knows that there is no need to resort to such means!
All these benefits take root in the child's life over time and make him a powerful person. When the child grows up and becomes an adolescent or adult, he or she will be able to control and resolve conflicts more easily and deal with stressful situations and problems.
Negative body language of parents
But if you have a body language that sends a negative message - annoying, irritating, indifferent, closed - then the effect is just the opposite. The child will feel unwanted, unimportant, unloved and will have the impression that you do not care about him. Self-esteem and self-esteem will suffer and most likely will be more easily engaged in inappropriate and naughty behaviors, especially to get your attention.
How to develop a positive nonverbal language to help the child?
The body language or nonverbal in front of the child includes several aspects:
You must work in all of these body language compartments to transmit positive signals.
Maintain eye contact when talking to him!
Eye contact is one of the most important parts of nonverbal language. This is one of the things that children learn the hardest about communicating with others. Therefore, it is up to you to teach him to keep eye-to-eye contact when talking to someone doing it yourself. How many times you cry or ask for something you do not answer while doing something else, stop and look in his eyes. It encourages this type of discussion, helps you gain confidence in it and feel heard, appreciated, understood.
Stay with your child when you talk to him!
And this does not just mean turning your head towards him, but you must turn your whole body towards him. On the one hand, this shows interest and openness for what it has to say to you, on the other, it helps you to stop what you are doing and to give them full attention. If you just turn your head towards him, you will tend to quickly revert to what you were doing because you are focused on what you are doing and you will not be able to stop.
Listen to what the child has to say!
Don't let him talk to you, but with you! Focus on what he has to say, including the body, not just the sense of hearing. Stop what you are doing and listen to it to the end without doing anything else at the same time.
Pay attention to posture and mimicry!
If you talk to him with a frowning face, serious, serious, clenched fists, accentuated breathing and other such signs that show how agitated and nervous you are then the child will not be able to communicate anything open and confident. You need to have a relaxed face, a warm grin (not necessarily a smile), a relaxed posture and sit with open arms, because it will allow you to approach the problem differently. All this shows that you are "willing" to listen to him and give him your support!
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