Crises of crying or hysteria in children

Crises of crying or hysteria in children

The hysteria crises are a natural presence from childhood. There is no child who does not have an access of anger or crying that is difficult for parents to forget. They are not pleasant, they appear in the most unfavorable situations and are often a blackmail to get what they want. Instead of seeing them as behavioral disasters, you can take advantage of making them an educational tool.

Why Do Children Have Anger?

Hysteria seizures are as common among boys as girls. They occur mainly between 1 and 3 anisors.

The causes of these dramatic crises are the same in all situations:

  • the child seeks to attract the attention of the parents;

  • they have such access when they are tired, sad, hungry or when they are not feeling at home;

  • crises also appear from a certain need for autonomy (young children want to have some control over the environment - maybe more than they are able to do, but they don't realize it).

Hysteria seizures are often a result of children's frustration when they can't get something. For example, when they do not necessarily buy a toy and do not do it, the children make such scenes.

These occur especially in the second year of life, a period when the little ones are just developing their language. Children of this age understand much more than they can express. Such crises also arise from the impossibility of communicating what I feel is, after all, a form of communication. The child transmits that something is not right, that he is unhappy, unhappy, scared, uncomfortable with something.

How do anger attacks generally manifest?

  • excessive plans;

  • whining;

  • screams;

  • hits;

  • the sensation of suffocation.

How to prevent crying crises?

  • make sure the baby receives sufficient attention from you;

  • try to give the child the chance to have control over certain things, no matter how small they may be (and they may satisfy the need for independence to some extent);

  • keep the child away from the things and objects he is not allowed to use; if you keep them in mind, you create the opportunity to trigger crises; if he does not see them, he will not ask them;

  • make sure you always keep the child well-maintained and do various fun activities with him; do not let the child get bored and find a way to create crises;

  • when he asks you for something (for example a new toy) he does not categorically refuse it, consider his wish, discuss it with him and reach a compromise together; a categorical refusal does nothing but make things worse;

  • learn to know the limits of your child; for example, if you know that you are tired, it is not the case to take it with you after shopping or in another location, but rather let it rest or put you to sleep.

How do you deal with hysteria crises?

The most important thing you have to do when dealing with such a crisis, whatever the cause, is to maintain your calm, even if it is very difficult for you. Do not complicate the situation further by expressing your own frustrations. Children immediately feel when their parents become frustrated and anxious and can take advantage of it, making access even stronger. Take a deep breath and try to think as lucidly as possible.

The child sees in you an example of behavior and lifestyle. If you use physical aggression you will not solve anything, but you will only be a negative example because you will give the child the opportunity to use it in turn when he is going through similar situations.

First of all you have to try to understand what is happening to the little one. Try to figure out the cause of that anger attack. Crises are more easily controlled if you know their cause.

Children should be allowed to calm down in a first phase. They should be left in a quiet and safe place to calm down, for example in their room. You don't have to give them a time limit, but tell them to stay there until it is quiet. Then talk to him about what happened and teach him to express his feelings verbally, rather than behavior.

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