The world has changed, it's not like when we were new children. New threats such as the Internet make aggressors more mobile and easier to maintain anonymity than before. Meanwhile, the increased number of abused children, the increase in the power of charges and gangs on the basis of an increasingly weak justice system, give parents a lot of concern.
But the good news is that in your fight for the safety of your children, the struggle that requires constant effort and concern, you are not alone. And you do not have to send your children alone to the world and completely unprotected. There may not be a science on how to keep children safe, but there are some basic principles and knowledge that you can teach yourself that can guide you in almost any situation. If you can look at the risk from above, recognize the alarms and make the right choices, then you will have children and your family safe.
7 ways to reach the full safety of the family
There are no words that can describe the feelings we experience when we take the baby for the first time. A mixture of sudden pride, astonishment, confusion, fear and unconditional love suddenly overwhelms us.
Some of us initially choose a parenting style that many would call "over-protective." We have such an overwhelming need to protect our child, that we rarely let anyone take him in his arms, even in the family, for fear of somehow escaping him. We sometimes spend hours in a row watching him move in amazement. We can hear his buzzes well before anyone else. We can predict when it will feel bad, upset or uncomfortable. As he begins to cry, we run to him.
We want more than anything for our child to be safe, and we have to make sure we do everything to ensure it. This is why we need to learn about our community, about the risks our child will have to face one day and what we can do to protect it.
Too often we hear crushing comments from parents, such as:
- How could this have happened? I knew him, or at least I thought I knew him. He seemed like such a nice person ...
- My child is very smart, and I have reviewed the safety rules with him so many times! He knows he doesn't have to talk to strangers: But he's so friendly. I told her not to be like that. He didn't listen to me. Why didn't he do it?
- I know his friends - please, most of them. I know his teacher. She goes to that school when she was in kindergarten. Why didn't they watch him, why didn't they take care of him?
- We keep the computer in the living room so we can see our daughter while she's online. I don't always understand what she's doing there, but she always told me to be quiet, which is no big deal. I had no idea ... how could I have?
- He told me he was going home to a friend. That was 3 days ago. I didn't ask her which friend. I said it's not my job. After all, he is 17 years old.
- It seemed like such a good lady. She also had two children. The house was clean and so cute. I don't understand how this could have been done to my children.
There is a lot of confusion about what to do to be a safe family, and parents need clear directions and a positive and proactive focus on their children.
Safe families are strengthened by knowledge, not knifed by fear
They do not choose to ignore or deny the potential dangers; instead, learn all you can about them. Knowledge gives power. The more you know about what and how something happened, what went wrong, and how it could have been prevented, the more prepared you are.
There are parents who live in a permanent fear for the safety of their children, and this affects all their decisions. They horrify the horrors they see in the media daily and are determined to protect their children at any cost. I applaud their dedication. But too much fear will cause you to stop seeing the true alarm signals that appear in the case of really dangerous situations or people, ultimately making you make bad decisions. If you let yourself be overwhelmed by fear, you will become incapable of truly protecting your children.
The only thing you really have to fear is what you don't understand.
If you can see the danger and understand the threats your child is facing, you can be prepared for them. If you ignore them, they will hit you in the back when you least expect them and you will only be left with the reactive answer, from the "we hold tight fists and hope nothing bad will happen".
To be honest, there are more and more tragic cases reported in the media, some with details that I honestly think the police should only know. Responsible parents, interested in safety should learn about these dangers, but not focus on the horror details. What he has to do when he learns about such cases is to try to focus on finding that key moment in the story that could have changed the course of events.
A responsible parent is able to estimate, predict that something will go wrong with the same ease with which he / she knows, feels that the son / daughter needs it. Being able to predict when the good becomes bad is a natural ability that we all have and must be cultivated. That "click" that helps us recognize the alarm signals sent by people, places and things. A responsible parent is the one who is able to distinguish the real danger from simple fears, the one who is able to predict the danger and prevent tragedies.
That parent is YOU!
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