Have you ever thought about how important it is for your child to show them that you trust him and let him do as much as he can, from a very young age?
I want to bring to your attention now the importance of the encouragement of children's education, as well as some pitfalls in which you can fall, from too much love.
I once read an affirmation, which I liked very much: "If you want to have a strong and confident child, never do things for him that he can do alone".
I remember the time when my children were learning to tie their laces, for example. They wanted very much to do this on their own, but many times, in their haste or comfort, I preferred to end them, rather than to be patient that they would succeed on their own.
It's a minor thing, I was saying at the time. However, they will learn when they grow up a little. It is very true that they grew up and learned, but at that time I lost something very important. More important than the lace tie was the fact that they would thus have gained confidence in their forces!
The children really want to do all kinds of things themselves, but we, the parents, in a hurry, prefer to dress, feed and do the small tasks that they would like to do on their own.
But in this way, we reach a time when we are disturbed by the effect of our actions. We wonder and revolt when, at the age of 7-8, a child is still fed or dressed by his mother, but how did the child do that? At one point, he gave up, because mom or dad are better off.
When they are small, letting them do certain things alone takes us longer than we would do in their place. Then, when they grow up, the problem is no longer a matter of time, but of effort - we get tired of fighting with them to convince them to do what they should do alone.
Regardless of age, it is good to be careful and not fall into the trap of doing the job instead of your child.
Your child needs to trust him and learn the feeling of responsibility. It is only your task to encourage him!
It is important that we, the parents, organize our program in such a way that the children have enough time to practice the things they learn - to dress alone, to brush their teeth, to tidy up the room.
I know that, in the frenetic pace of our lives, the above statement seems utopian. But if you think it is very important for your child to do certain things alone and be proud of them, don't be ashamed or frustrated that he can't keep up with you, you may realize that you can make a few minor changes to your schedule that will give you and your child the time you need.
Another trap you can fall into is to try to protect your child from failure, disappointment or suffering.
This way you discourage him, without wanting to, to try new things.
Although we do not want to suffer, there are situations in which it is good to allow our children to take certain risks.
Allow your child to experiment, take risks and make mistakes, because only this way he will learn. If he wins, he will undoubtedly increase his self-confidence. If he loses, he will at least be satisfied that he has done everything he can to win and will learn what to do differently in a similar situation.
When your child is upset about the failure, you can focus his attention on the part he ended up with or the difficulty of his attempt and not the fact that he has not completely reached his goal.
Throughout this journey, it is up to you again, only the task of encouraging it. And do not forget: Your child needs to believe in him especially when he has lost confidence in himself!
By encouraging him with all his heart - by encouraging his dreams, talents, qualities, you help him become a confident and powerful adult.
Another trap you can fall into is to tell the child "Just try!" When you want to encourage him to do something new.
You are able to send them the message that they can get away with a quick attempt and that is all. For the child looking for a way out, the fact that he "just tried" may be just the pretext he needed to stop before he had finished what he had to do. And as adults, when we say "I will try", we do not fully assume the responsibility that we will do that.
Tell your child to try his best to succeed. Asking him to do everything in his power to express his confidence in his forces and open the way to his success. Your child's self-confidence is built every day and is very important for his whole life.
Low self-esteem is responsible for any problem in our life. Therefore, encourage your child at all times and do not let him or her think about it as inappropriate, flawed or bad. Ensure it of your unconditional love, praise it and encourage it permanently and you will see, it will bloom and become better and better every day.
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