Preschoolers up to 7 years old
Before talking to your baby, calm down. Already the basis of this discussion is probably laid.
When you tell your child "This medicine is for Michael's earache, but it will hurt him too much," or "We only take drugs when the doctor tells us," you already plant the idea that some substances are harmful.
At this age, some children may be ready to receive messages such as that juices or coffee are harmful to children because they have caffeine.
"These types of discussions lay the foundation of a very good and normal behavior within the family," say the specialists.
For older children, such as those between the ages of 4 and 7, dialogues can be more complex.
Specialists say you should teach the child to say "no" when a stranger gives them sweets and then tell an adult they trust. They must be taught to be in control of them and to say "no" when appropriate.
A medical specialist maintains that the moments when to open discussions on these topics with the child should be sought. For example, if you are in front of the TV and watch a movie where someone, at one point, smokes, do not hesitate to start a discussion about cigarettes.
You can say something like "think about it" like putting all these crap in you "and then continue on the same line to the drug topic.
This is a way to bring up the issue that there are many chemicals in the world that can harm the body, whether they are legal or not.
The tone of these discussions should be calm; listen to what the child has to say. Be explicit about the effects of the drugs you are discussing: how they make you physically feel, the risk of overdose, and other long-term effects they have.
To give the child something clear and plausible you will need to document yourself.
Children between 8 and 12 years
Children from 8 to 12 years old
As your child grows up, you can open up drug conversations by asking them for their opinion on this subject.
"Ask direct questions," say the specialists. "The children will not preach - they want to see their father relaxed and saying" I saw a drug program at work and I was wondering what you are learning in school about it. Are there drugs for you in school? What do you know about them? "
Even if there is no discussion, make the child more careful and think about it. If you show the children that you are open to discussions and listen to what they say, they will come to you in the future to ask for your help in the future.
Talk about how nail polish or markers should be used in a well-ventilated environment because otherwise vapors can damage the body.
Your behavior may influence the child and he may become a smoker and drinker or not.
"It's hard to tell a child not to smoke or drink, when you sit in the armchair with a cigarette in one hand and a drink glass in the other," say the specialists.
Children between 13 and 18 years
Children aged 13-18 years
At this age, it is possible for your child to already know people who use drugs or drink alcohol, or have friends who have driving licenses.
It is very important for your child to know that alcohol is extremely dangerous under the influence of alcohol. "When children drive, or are in the car with older ones and they drive, they have to sit down and say, people use drugs, people drink alcohol, and I don't want to be in the car with someone who consumes something like this. "
It is a good idea to prepare a written contract or not, in which to pass the rules regarding getting out or using the car. You can promise to take your child by car at any time of the day and night, without asking questions, if he promises to call in case the person he initially left is under the influence of drugs or alcohol.
You say "You can call at any time of the day and night, if you are worried that you have to get in the car with someone who is drunk or has used drugs, and I will come immediately to take you. I will not yell and I will not scream. The next day we will sit quietly and talk about how you got into that situation, make me very angry. "
The contract can also detail other situations: for example, if you find out that someone used alcohol or drugs in your car, while it was in the child's hand, you will not be allowed to use the car for 6 months.